Last week, we shared why Grandparents love Fairy doors and this week we want to look into why Grandparents are Special.
How many times do we hear people say how much their grandparents influenced them. If you watch any baking show on TV, the contestants so often share how their passion for baking came from their grandma.
Studies show that almost 80% of adults feel that their grandparents influenced their beliefs and values in some way.
A 2014 study at Boston College also found that “an emotionally close relationship between grandparent and grandchild is associated with fewer symptoms of depression for both generations.”
Why are grandparents special?
I asked my husband this the other day and he fondly remembered “that his Grandma always made him feel like she’d been waiting to see him all day and now the day was complete because he came.”
Grandparents love us, spoil us, take us interesting places, play games with us and read us as many books as we want. They don’t growl at us, they’re never too busy and they seem to know answers to tough questions.
Somehow, we feel a sense of “belonging” with our grandparents. They’ve been here ‘forever’ (in a child’s mind), we can lean on them and ask them stuff without fear of rejection.
Grandma and Grandpa’s home is a place where kids feel understood and where memories are made. A place where a child feels loved unconditionally.
Why is this?
- Grandparents have TIME!
- They’ve been there and done that!
- And they don’t have the pressure of the 24/7 child responsibility. They can enjoy and then hand back!
For kids, having loving grandparents around means perfect play-mates, a trusted confidant and someone we can trust and hug heaps. And in turn, most grandparents truly love their role.
So, what is it that Grandparents do that instils this sense of being loved?
I think it’s a combination of lots of things:
- Grandparents take the time to tell stories and share family memories,
- they love cooking recipes together and teaching skills that are passed down.
- they even make the littlest of treats feel special.
- Grandparents are happy to take the time to discover new things together, even if it’s a pretty rock in the back yard or a bug on a leaf.
All of these things bring about a sense of belonging which we all crave. Plus these things create new memories which children often cherish for life.
What Others have Shared…
In asking others the question why are grandparents special, the one thing i noticed across the board was how everyone’s eyes lit up with memories and warm feelings.
One man answered with one word – “Prayer”. he said he remembers growing up and his Nanna reminding him over and over, “Your Nanna is praying for you.” He said he didn’t really appreciate this growing up but now, decades later, he says, “I am the man I am today because of my grandmother’s prayers.”
In remembering her grandparents, Susan Strasberg says “I loved their home. Everything smelled older and worn but safe. I felt safe and loved there.”
An older lady, Velma, said her love of baking came from her Grandma. She remembers many times how she would stand next to her Grandma on a chair and helped her bake biscuits and cakes.
Another lady shared that as a child, I loved being with my Grandma and Grandpa. I remember making dollshouses with her out of cardboard boxes and furniture from match boxes. And then my grandma would surprise me with tiny pieces of clothing she’d made from scraps of fabric.
I also loved being outside in the garden with my Grandpa helping him tend his vegetable garden. I had my own small bucket, shovel and wheelbarrow and remembered getting so dirty with him. She fondly said this was where she got her love of the garden from.
A young lady shared how she has fond memories of how her grandmother would put her to sleep by scratching her back. And even now in her 30’s, when she and her grandmother are able to get together, she still almost puts her to sleep by scratching her back.
Do you have fond memories of your grandparents? What are the special legacies they have left in your life?
Why are Grandparents special in your life?
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